If you want to live with integrity, make sure you aren’t making these mistakes.Read More
Recently I got an full immersion experience into what it means to work at the edge of my comfort zone and expand into my yesses. When I was invited to be a guest on Marianne Combs' show on Minnesota Public Radio along with Resmaa Menakem to talk about anger in the public sphere, I responded with an enthusiastic yes.
I was recently re-organizing some handouts that I often use for workshops, and came across this one on the difference between empathic and non-empathic responses.
Reading it again, I was surprised to find myself arguing with my own handout, and realized that I wanted to talk about how taking an Integral Communication approach has become increasingly important to me.Read More
Have you noticed the cultural pressure to “Be Positive” or “Be Strong” or “Focus on the Good”?
It's as if we think that acknowledging or empathizing with painful experiences inadvertently creates more of them.
I hear it all the time.
“I would never do therapy,” someone said to me disdainfully, “All that focus on bad feelings and old stories will simply create more of them in my life. I don’t want to attract negativity like that.”Read More
Whenever I ask for something relational that I’m needing (comfort, affection, to be heard or seen) I feel super vulnerable. This isn’t easy.
I worry about:
1. Being turned down
2. Feeling disappointed, and
3. Then judging myself for being too needy, demanding, pushy or selfish.Read More
We lived in Germany when I was in elementary school and each year for the holidays we would visit extended family “back home” in South Africa.
I'd always be just a little more grown up.
Hugging and welcoming us, family would turn to me saying with glowing, love and pride, saying: “Oh my, look how big you’ve gotten! You are such a big girl now... ”Read More